Originally Posted by themrs
The one thing I was taught by my mother was to always have my own. She stayed with my father in a less than optimal situation because she didn't have an education and was dependant on him. She drilled it into my head to always be capable of supporting myself and children by myself.
I believe hope is the reason people allow poor treatment over and over. We hope that the person we fell in love with will magically reappear and all will be right with the world again. Some of us hold on to that hope far longer than we should. A lot of times we should just cut our losses and move on, but we hope that things will turn around and that all of the things we went through will not have been in vain.
My mother in law is like this. She stayed in hopes her husband would change. They are both 79 years old. To this day she struggles with her choices. She told me she knew when she was in her 30's she should have probably left. She has told me many times she regretted not leaving. She had hoped he would change and here they are at 79, and he still hasn't. Although now they have to many aches and pains and more worried about when their next doc visits are etc.
She just made the comment the other day about how she guess she hung onto hope for to long. I love her, but she is a sad lady indeed. Part of me feels bad for her and part of me doesn't.