ku1980rose

I have only been married 10 months and in my case I am the one who wants to separate, so I am going to offer advice from the point of view of the one who wants the space. It may be different from a woman's point of view than from your husband's, but that's all I can give.

Right now, I feel I need space and my H doesn't feel that way. Although we fight all of the time, he still wants me there. I feel if I can't get away and clear my head, then there will never be the possibility of getting through this. I feel a lot of contempt for him, which is not necessarily his fault, but our fighting and our anger breeds contempt and I can't seem to get out from under that. If I really want to be with him, then I feel separation may show me that after a while.

The same may go for your husband. He may need the space to realize he needs you. He still calls you and texts you which is a good thing. I don't call or text my husband much when we are apart at this time. What I feel I need from him, and what your husband may need from you is to just back off. I don't mean that in a bad way, just don't know how else to put it. Don't beg, don't plead, don't call him all the time. Don't ask him why. Don't try to get him to talk all the time. I'm not saying you do these things, but if you do, that would be my advice. Give him the space he needs. Begging and Pleading and being too clingy will usually only drive that person further away.

Hope some of this helps. This is a great place for advice! Good luck!