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Jellybeans · 05-11-2011, 08:46 AM

Heart, I have never forgiven myself. It has been 2 yrs now and I never have been able to do it. It's actually a major problem for me, something I am stuck in that I can't get past, despite confessing, repenting, praying, admitting, journalling, counselling, expressing remorse, guilt, saying I'm sorry 1000 different ways. Just has never happened for me. I am divorced now and it still doesn't escape me. I did totally end contact with OM on my own and focused on restoring my marriage but we still divorced because my H would not fully commit to the marriage. I accept the blame fully but just have never gotten to the point of forgiveness. Idk know that I ever will and at the rate I am going, can't foresee it ever happening.

Re: your hub... if he can't accept what he did was wrong, as I previously mentioned, I don't believe there is any way you can work through this.

05-11-2011, 08:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jellybeans Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 11,716	Re: Question to the cheaters (sorry for harshness) Heart, I have never forgiven myself. It has been 2 yrs now and I never have been able to do it. It's actually a major problem for me, something I am stuck in that I can't get past, despite confessing, repenting, praying, admitting, journalling, counselling, expressing remorse, guilt, saying I'm sorry 1000 different ways. Just has never happened for me. I am divorced now and it still doesn't escape me. I did totally end contact with OM on my own and focused on restoring my marriage but we still divorced because my H would not fully commit to the marriage. I accept the blame fully but just have never gotten to the point of forgiveness. Idk know that I ever will and at the rate I am going, can't foresee it ever happening. Re: your hub... if he can't accept what he did was wrong, as I previously mentioned, I don't believe there is any way you can work through this.