| | Re: "You left me"
You misunderstand me. I am not suggesting anything like sweeping things under the rug. Honestly I have no idea what you did do. Maybe you were perfect, and he just wasn't there.
My point is many people on this group and on the other groups I belong to have what I think is a less than useful approach to the work. Many people think that working on their marriage is nothing more than saying honey I want this to change. ... Yah that would be nice, but in practice it rarely does.
There are things one CAN do to get change. But most people don't want to hear about it.