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Originally Posted by cadence
Draconis, Maybe being a stay at home isnt hard FOR A MAN...I mean after all you will get much more admiration and appreciation for doing exactly what millions of moms do all the time (even us full time working moms) bt I find this statement highly insulting as it is basicaly demeaning even further the unpaid work that is done PREDOMINATELY by women....sure youve done it for a year...many many of us have done it for 10 , 15 or 20years whilst simultaneously working 40 hrs pr week in paid employment...
I have posted a few links under "not feeling appreciated ' on the womens thread and believe me there is way more research showing that your experience is way from the norm f what many women experience.......sure your houswor may take three hours...do you have any disabilities, suffer depresion, have period pain , carry babies etc......????? you simply cant compare your experience to that of a woman.
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Yes I do suffer from three severe disabilities, yes because of the disabilities I have battled with depression off and on. I have four kids and a wife I do all the chores for even though some days I can't even open a zip lock bag and the bank has to know me in person because somedays I can't sign my own name.
Many stay at homes claim that it is a 40+ hour a week job, it isn't. There isn't one movie or book I know of that credits men for staying at home rather they are always though of as inept. Ask most men and WOMEN how they feel about stay at homes (the most common responce for a women is good for her, for a man he must be a slacker or good for nothing, "not a man.")
Stay at home isn't hard work. I'd trade it ANY day for the work I use to do. One out of three in the job was hospitalized every year. You really don't have those worries with a stay at home, it is more time management, and doing work effectively.
I admire those that can stay at home. Do they get enough credit? By some yes most often by their SO no. It doesn't change the point. One person on here complained her husband didn't help around the house. I was the first to jump all over him for not doing so then later she said he had to have surgery. No wonder he didn't if his back was that bad and he was working through with disc problems.
As far as the pain I will trade any day of the week with you. Not only do I do all the house work btw I also own and run my own store often managing that from home too.
draconis