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Marlon248 · 07-10-2007, 10:29 AM

Good Morning. I am new to Talk about marriage and i have a issue that i need serious help on ( in my opinion)
this topic is similar to the one above so i posted under his topic
and also similar to the above post, i love my wife with all my heart (not above god of course) and i am willing to do what it takes to make her happy.

and i have for the past month been wrestling with a similar issue as the person above. My wife and i have been married for 4 years (going on 5 this October). as of a month ago, my wife got back in touch with her male friend (who she has known for 12 years, and briefly dated). They hve been talking on a regular basis since. On the flip side (i discovered that i have been neglecting to spend time with her and in the process, i felt that she was about to have an affair or already had one)
I have asked her if there was anything going on between the two and she stated no. I apoligzed for my behavior and i am trying to at least once a week show my love and appreciation for her (flowers, card etc). My wife is very social and i am more of an Introvert but i am improving.

My problem is that i cannot shake the feeling that she may be cheating or plan to cheat. I don't have any proof otherwise but it still knaws at me. i don't want to keep asking becasue i may push her into an affair, I also do not want to overdo my affection and smother her either. when we talked, all she asked to be happy was that we spend more time together and that she spend time with her friends ( female and male)

My quesiton was partially answered in the above advce you gave earlier, but i have some quesitons.....

Should i be concerned that she has a male friend that she talks to and shares information about our marriage and his problems with his girlfriend?

Part of me feels that i may have already lost her, should i be feeling this way? and do you think it is too late to recover?

Should i seek professional counseling for my issues of trust and fear or betrayal?

Thanks
Marlon

P.S. if you need more infor or details, let me know
Thanks

07-10-2007, 10:29 AM	#3 (permalink)
Marlon248 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: St. Louis, MO Posts: 3	Similar issue Good Morning. I am new to Talk about marriage and i have a issue that i need serious help on ( in my opinion) this topic is similar to the one above so i posted under his topic and also similar to the above post, i love my wife with all my heart (not above god of course) and i am willing to do what it takes to make her happy. and i have for the past month been wrestling with a similar issue as the person above. My wife and i have been married for 4 years (going on 5 this October). as of a month ago, my wife got back in touch with her male friend (who she has known for 12 years, and briefly dated). They hve been talking on a regular basis since. On the flip side (i discovered that i have been neglecting to spend time with her and in the process, i felt that she was about to have an affair or already had one) I have asked her if there was anything going on between the two and she stated no. I apoligzed for my behavior and i am trying to at least once a week show my love and appreciation for her (flowers, card etc). My wife is very social and i am more of an Introvert but i am improving. My problem is that i cannot shake the feeling that she may be cheating or plan to cheat. I don't have any proof otherwise but it still knaws at me. i don't want to keep asking becasue i may push her into an affair, I also do not want to overdo my affection and smother her either. when we talked, all she asked to be happy was that we spend more time together and that she spend time with her friends ( female and male) My quesiton was partially answered in the above advce you gave earlier, but i have some quesitons..... Should i be concerned that she has a male friend that she talks to and shares information about our marriage and his problems with his girlfriend? Part of me feels that i may have already lost her, should i be feeling this way? and do you think it is too late to recover? Should i seek professional counseling for my issues of trust and fear or betrayal? Thanks Marlon P.S. if you need more infor or details, let me know Thanks