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VLR · 05-17-2011, 01:03 PM

Been there and I feel for you. A couple of observations:

- A marriage counselor told me I need to make sure I've given 5 geniune compliments before one criticism.

- Everything you wrote was about your efforts to get what you want from her. What does she want that she's not getting from you? Have you asked her? Have you listened when she tried to tell you? Usually, that's the deal. You are doing x,y and z that a wonderful husband would do. Congratulations, but in her mind, you are not doing a, b and c that she wants you to do.

- If and when you do ask her, assuming you reflect back on what she's told you and you can't recall anything, you need to be doing it just for her, not so she will reciprocate with what you want.

05-17-2011, 01:03 PM	#3 (permalink)
VLR Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 100	Re: Tired of my wife's lack of intimacy: Suggestions? Been there and I feel for you. A couple of observations: - A marriage counselor told me I need to make sure I've given 5 geniune compliments before one criticism. - Everything you wrote was about your efforts to get what you want from her. What does she want that she's not getting from you? Have you asked her? Have you listened when she tried to tell you? Usually, that's the deal. You are doing x,y and z that a wonderful husband would do. Congratulations, but in her mind, you are not doing a, b and c that she wants you to do. - If and when you do ask her, assuming you reflect back on what she's told you and you can't recall anything, you need to be doing it just for her, not so she will reciprocate with what you want.