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Old 05-17-2011, 05:00 PM   #4 (permalink)
Grayson
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Default Re: Kind of in a sticky situation...

Why did you post my college story? ;-)

Seriously, though, much the same once happened to me. College roommate burned bridges with our circle of friends - moved out of our apt with only one week's notice, left another friend high and dry for someplace to live the following fall, broke up with his gf/fiancée without doing her the courtesy of telling her...just stopped calling, transferred job locations, and started seeing one of his employees - so we all decided we'd much rather stay friends with his gf. Being the one who knew her best, I got in touch with her and we started hanging out, which led to dating, which led to a relationship that lasted for almost 4 years. Found out she'd had a slight crush on me while dating my roommate.

If you two like each other, there's no reason not to explore whatever chemistry you might have.

The one place I'd advise you to tread carefully is to be wary of being the "rebound guy.". Ultimately, that's what I ended up being. I fell for her, bit she didn't really fall for me. She was conflicted on the exact nature of our relationship sometimes. At times, she would get upset at the notion of being considered my "girlfriend," but the worst fight we ever had was because I didn't introduce her as such at a co-worker's wedding reception.

Ultimately, though, if the former friend is essentially out of the picture for good, and you're both attracted to one another, it's probably worth finding out where it might lead.
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