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unbelievable · 05-19-2011, 10:24 AM

it's not that unusual for a new father to feel a little weird about sex. Before the pregnancy, sex wasn't a problem. I think a counselor could help turn this around (if you can get him to go). He's watched your body change completely and maybe he watched his child's head pop out of his old amusement park. He's had to see you in a completely new way. You've got to help him see you as "lover" instead of "mother" sometimes. Take it slowly, a little cuddling, a little teasing, without pressure. You know where his buttons are and you know how to push them.
I've been chronically pissed and I've felt disrespected and neglected for sometimes months on end. Even in my very darkest hour, it doesn't take Wife long to get me going. The cure for neglect is pampering and sex.

05-19-2011, 10:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
unbelievable Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Tennessee Posts: 3,885	Re: Hurtful- Husband refuses sex with me. Too late to fix? it's not that unusual for a new father to feel a little weird about sex. Before the pregnancy, sex wasn't a problem. I think a counselor could help turn this around (if you can get him to go). He's watched your body change completely and maybe he watched his child's head pop out of his old amusement park. He's had to see you in a completely new way. You've got to help him see you as "lover" instead of "mother" sometimes. Take it slowly, a little cuddling, a little teasing, without pressure. You know where his buttons are and you know how to push them. I've been chronically pissed and I've felt disrespected and neglected for sometimes months on end. Even in my very darkest hour, it doesn't take Wife long to get me going. The cure for neglect is pampering and sex.