| | Re: Hurtful- Husband refuses sex with me. Too late to fix?
I am new to these forums. I found them because my husband and I are having the same problems. I cant believe it! Anyway, I was the same way in the begining, I was the refuser at times but usually fullfilled him anyway. We have been married 4yrs and have a 13month old. He was also very into porn and it really bothered me at first but I realized it was harmless and he is 100% faithful so it is what it is... We had an amazing sex life until a yr ago he was put on meds for ptsd and has lost the desire to have sex or look at porn. Im in hell... The least he could do is help a little you know.
Now about tricking him into getting you pregnant, that probably did alot of harm. He expressed that he didnt want a child but you took it into your own hands and did it anyway. Now he is a father and that is huge. I can see where he would be mad. At the same time I can see your side too. The one thing most women want and need in life is a child, and they will do what it takes.
You are taking the right steps in trying to mend your relationship. He needs to figure out what the hell he needs to do. He cant keep you as a wife but not treat you as one whats that about. He may never truly forgive you or trust you.