bonsai

I have one more question. What's the best way to handle porn stuff?

When we started talking about the sex issues and he started to open more I asked him gently if he would let me watch porn with him. I cried and confessed to him that I have been watching it alone too. I promised him if he agrees to I would not force him into sex, just want to watch it with him and that's it. He said fine. Now it has been almost a week and he hasn't talked to me about it since.

Should I ask him nicely again? I want to be honest with him. I want to enjoy watching it with him but at the same time, I don't want to keep asking or pushing him because that's one of my bad controlling behaviors in the past. Or I should ignore it and let him continue watch porn/masturbate alone without telling me? I can try to respect that eventhough it will be very hurtful.