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Anigroeg · 05-19-2011, 05:35 PM

Hello
If anyone can help me with this one I would be very grateful as I feel driven to distraction.

Firstly I have a husband who is terrible at communicating. If there are family issues that need to be discussed he just clams up and appears to sulk leaving me to make all the decisions which are usually wrong apparently, though I wouldn't know for sure because he doesn't tell me.

The second issue is his mother. She just won't let go! I few years ago after the birth of our daughter, we decided to move 150 miles away so that I could be closer to my friends and family for support as him and his family were not able or willing to help. He has remained living in his mother's house in the week ever since and coming back to us at weekends.

The mother has since stated that she has rights to see her grand-daughter intimating that I was somehow stopping her from seeing her which was nonsense. SHe then took me to one side to tell me that her son does not want any more children which really hurt as I would have hoped that that would be a discussion between me and my husband. She visits us one weekend a month but has started to leave her clothes and other items in the spare room without asking which I find very rude. To top it all we have completely different view points on politics, education, discipline, what is healthy and sincemy husband has been living with her in the week, he's now taking on those views and we disagree now on most things.

This is ruining our marriage. ANy advice welcome!

05-19-2011, 05:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
Anigroeg Registered User Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 5	Clingy mother in law + uncommunicative husband Hello If anyone can help me with this one I would be very grateful as I feel driven to distraction. Firstly I have a husband who is terrible at communicating. If there are family issues that need to be discussed he just clams up and appears to sulk leaving me to make all the decisions which are usually wrong apparently, though I wouldn't know for sure because he doesn't tell me. The second issue is his mother. She just won't let go! I few years ago after the birth of our daughter, we decided to move 150 miles away so that I could be closer to my friends and family for support as him and his family were not able or willing to help. He has remained living in his mother's house in the week ever since and coming back to us at weekends. The mother has since stated that she has rights to see her grand-daughter intimating that I was somehow stopping her from seeing her which was nonsense. SHe then took me to one side to tell me that her son does not want any more children which really hurt as I would have hoped that that would be a discussion between me and my husband. She visits us one weekend a month but has started to leave her clothes and other items in the spare room without asking which I find very rude. To top it all we have completely different view points on politics, education, discipline, what is healthy and sincemy husband has been living with her in the week, he's now taking on those views and we disagree now on most things. This is ruining our marriage. ANy advice welcome!