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unreal · 05-20-2011, 02:54 AM

Hi,

I have been married just going onto my 4th year with no kids as we are struggling to save money also struggling to make a marriage work.

I have considered divorce a couple of times before but opted to stay and fight to see if things would overcome in time, which it hasn't.

I do care about my wife and her wellbeing, but I have over 200 issues which I have written down things I am not happy with big n small which she threw back on my face as a joke so I stopped that method of reconciliation way.

I will not list all of them but the main ones. I would like your opinion if you would divorce from a person on these points please.

I do not love her physically or her personality. She is not the person I thought her to be before marriage or she changed through seeing other people's lifestyles through work.

She doesn't want to have female children due to circumstances happen with her own family. She also wants to make all the rules for the children and none from me.

I cannot properly communicate with her in her own language about 75% I can and this leads to misunderstanding and fights.

One of the main reasons, but not the ONLY I married I wanted to have someone to share my faith with and practice together which she vowed to do but in practice its the opposite and says she is unwell. I have compromised and how she practices her faith its upto to her and God. Also, I had issues of her dressing which she has ignored I have let go and said wear what you want although this affects me greatly on other men looking at her.

I have an illness recently develop which I cannot do my job and my wife is not supporting me financially nor verbal support on starting my own business rather she brags about others lifestyle than making our own.

I gave her an ultimatum she went back to her home country for her brothers wedding and told her if she appreciates living in the UK then come back if she doesn't then stay where you are, this she agreed and came back but not in reality practice she still swears at the government and tells me bad news when I told her only tell me good news as I am sick of hearing murder stories per day.

She doesn't like me using contraceptives as she suspects I have HIV and I don't want kids.

05-20-2011, 02:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
unreal Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 52	Considering Divorce 3rd time Hi, I have been married just going onto my 4th year with no kids as we are struggling to save money also struggling to make a marriage work. I have considered divorce a couple of times before but opted to stay and fight to see if things would overcome in time, which it hasn't. I do care about my wife and her wellbeing, but I have over 200 issues which I have written down things I am not happy with big n small which she threw back on my face as a joke so I stopped that method of reconciliation way. I will not list all of them but the main ones. I would like your opinion if you would divorce from a person on these points please. I do not love her physically or her personality. She is not the person I thought her to be before marriage or she changed through seeing other people's lifestyles through work. She doesn't want to have female children due to circumstances happen with her own family. She also wants to make all the rules for the children and none from me. I cannot properly communicate with her in her own language about 75% I can and this leads to misunderstanding and fights. One of the main reasons, but not the ONLY I married I wanted to have someone to share my faith with and practice together which she vowed to do but in practice its the opposite and says she is unwell. I have compromised and how she practices her faith its upto to her and God. Also, I had issues of her dressing which she has ignored I have let go and said wear what you want although this affects me greatly on other men looking at her. I have an illness recently develop which I cannot do my job and my wife is not supporting me financially nor verbal support on starting my own business rather she brags about others lifestyle than making our own. I gave her an ultimatum she went back to her home country for her brothers wedding and told her if she appreciates living in the UK then come back if she doesn't then stay where you are, this she agreed and came back but not in reality practice she still swears at the government and tells me bad news when I told her only tell me good news as I am sick of hearing murder stories per day. She doesn't like me using contraceptives as she suspects I have HIV and I don't want kids.