jessi

Clinging,

If your husband is in an affair and he is leaving you for her, he thinks this fantasy life he has been living with her is the life he wants.
Fantasy is not reality, i think you will see him slowly understand what he is throwing away to do this.......
It's all fun until reality gets in the way.
At this point all you can do is work on yourself, be the best person you can be, take the high road, take care of your kids, they are hurting as well.
You let your husband know in a letter that you love him and would be willing to work on the marriage as long as it's just the two of you in the marriage, don't just take him back if he does change his mind.........he needs to work on himself, figure out his own feelings.
MC, transparency, no inappropriate relationships with other women.
Right now he is in a stage where he needs to process his own life and see what that life will be like, my guess is he will miss the life he had for 33 years before you know, history means a lot in marriage.........children, family, the house, the life.......he will miss everything in no time.......
What does he really have with another woman, sex, so what, they have no history, they know that they would be liars and cheaters..
They will have their own trust issues.......
She is not winning over you,
There is a saying when someone tries to steal your husband the best revenge is to let them have him.
Right now take care of yourself and try to stay in no contact with your husband don't fill any of his emotional needs. that is called cake eating when he gets his needs met by both.......
Make him see what his life really will be like, no contact is the only way.........if the ow if there is one has to fill all his needs watch it fall apart............
jessi