Hello. I've just got to say that you knew who R was before you got married, and something (i'm certain that her personality was a major part of it) attracted you to her, anyway. Now that she's married to you, you want to change her. That's not fair. Basically you are saying that when you asked her to marry you, it's not her that you wanted but someone entirely different. Frankly, perhaps you should have married someone more to your standards. Does that sound harsh? Good. It should. This woman is at her mom's house because she can't be herself in her own home. It's not her fault that you are introverted. She's going to resent you-is that what you want? Does her "I do" not mean anything to you? "I do" doesn't mean that she has to change who she is as long as she loves you, is faithful, is there for you, etc. By you trying to change her, you are basically saying that you don't like who she is and that you don't respect her.
Now that i've basically stepped all over you, let me reach down my hand and pick you back up. What you are doing is very normal. A lot of times when we love someone, we are protective over the relationship. When our partner has interests outside of the marriage and we don't, we may feel insecure because our partner is seeking something from others instead of from us. But that's when trust comes into play. And also respect. Respect the woman that you married, don't try to change her into someone else. And trust that she loves you the same way. If you can't do that, you will push her away.
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