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the guy · 05-20-2011, 07:19 PM

Early on I focused on the good things that my cheating wife was doing to redem her self. She went above and beyond. So everytime I get those negitive thoughts I forced them out and replaced them with the positive thoughts of her current actions, and healthier behaviors.

Our R is going good and its been 15 month, 9 days, and 8 hours sinse I confronted her. These days I except the fact that she wasn't a virgin when I met her, she answered all my....most of my questions with regard to details, and the bottom line is I've seen enought dirty movies to know what happened. I go to bed knowing that I'm a better lover then any of those vampires my wife was with. Thats just me.
For me sex is just sex, I'm just glad my best friend isn't sleeping around on me. We both have changed our behaviors to prevent it from happening again.

We've been married for 20 years and I wish I could put my finger on it but its just something that is working its self out. I guess we're just freaks. That and our expectations of each other are alot different then when we were in our twenties so with that said there is less resentment.

Thats just my $0.02 so take from it what you will.

05-20-2011, 07:19 PM	#9 (permalink)
the guy Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: CA Posts: 7,374	Re: Just found out Early on I focused on the good things that my cheating wife was doing to redem her self. She went above and beyond. So everytime I get those negitive thoughts I forced them out and replaced them with the positive thoughts of her current actions, and healthier behaviors. Our R is going good and its been 15 month, 9 days, and 8 hours sinse I confronted her. These days I except the fact that she wasn't a virgin when I met her, she answered all my....most of my questions with regard to details, and the bottom line is I've seen enought dirty movies to know what happened. I go to bed knowing that I'm a better lover then any of those vampires my wife was with. Thats just me. For me sex is just sex, I'm just glad my best friend isn't sleeping around on me. We both have changed our behaviors to prevent it from happening again. We've been married for 20 years and I wish I could put my finger on it but its just something that is working its self out. I guess we're just freaks. That and our expectations of each other are alot different then when we were in our twenties so with that said there is less resentment. Thats just my $0.02 so take from it what you will.