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Originally Posted by unbelievable  If adults could be sent to eternal damnation by the words of a 9 year old, the earth would be populated by only adolescents. "Meanest Mommy" or "Meanest Daddy on Earth" is a badge of honor worn by every parent who has ever said "no" or enforced a rule. It means you're doing the job correctly. Your reward is the sweet knowledge that your grandkids will say the same things to them when they become parents. You will get to perpetually say "Yes" to your grandkids, stuff them with candy, spoil them rotten, and send their hyper butts home to torment your son and they can wish death upon him. It's just the precious cycle of life. It's awful to be on the receiving end as a parent, but it's great amusement for a grandparent. |
Good post, good notion! In that case I have a swathe of badges reminiscent of a Russian general's uniform!!!
btw, I posted this which touches on the whole 'son & me falling out' issue, to little (no
) response.... have I been kidding myself that it's nothing to do with it?
So I'd thought we were well back on track. Silly me.
OH rings from other continent a few hours back, I tell him 9yo & I've had a bit of a falling out (understatement) but we (ie OH & I) have ok small chat and agree to speak later and he to speak to 9yo.
Time goes, son & I make up then literally moments before OH rings all hell breaks loose again, over what I can't begin to describe, definitely trivia, probably denial of permission to use a toy I'd bought him because he'd been good over school work. A rare occurrence. (me buying him a treat) This is relevant later.
OH rings, speaks to 9yo, sounds ok-ish, I speak to OH, he mentions - not the first subject we talk about, though - that this has kicked off just as he's about to go to airport tomorrow (on cruise - on his own). Few sentences pass and he asks why I buy son presents when he treats me this way, I get upset and say because I rarely buy him treats and this was meant to mean something, and (voice cracking by this stage) I say it can't be helped he's just about to go to airport; he accuses me of shouting at him and puts the phone down. I was upset - he doesn't do 'stress' well, particularly where 9yo is concerned, and it often feels like I'm parenting alone half the time(true) but when he's not here I can't vent for fear of 'upsetting' him.
*@#+**
Should be more articulate. I can do it in my head, but not on TAM.
Anyone any thoughts?
nb OH did ring later and apologise for misinterpreting what I'd said .............
