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Old 05-22-2011, 03:30 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Default Re: Why Deejo, MEM, and Wolf are right

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Originally Posted by alphaomega View Post
Yes. The thermostat makes sense. And works. But I was also thinking about the dynamics of parts of it.

First off, why is it the job of the higher temp person to cool off? Why not say? Look honey, your too cold. Time to heat up.

Second...in essence. The thermometer scale interaction has parts to it that are passive aggressive by nature. You get a bit of disrespect, so you chill it down. Sometimes drastically. Never talk or tell why, until your partner acknowledges something was done wrong and THEY initiate the talk. This is classic passive aggressive behavior to a T. You passively intend to punish to draw out a response from your partner.

Interesting....to say the least. There are definitely part of it I don't understand either.
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That’s not my understanding of passive aggressive behaviour.

PA behaviour is when a person deliberately/consciously sets out to hurt another all the while disguising the fact that that is what they are doing. It’s rather akin to someone standing in front of you smiling at you while at the very same time they are stabbing you in the back and moving the knife around to make sure it hurts. It’s very painful (it’s meant to be) and unbelievable (it’s meant to be), it’s very well disguised. It’s thought out beforehand and that makes it premeditated.

There is absolutely none of that type of behaviour indicated by ANY of the men who post here.

Bob

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