bonsai

Here is an update, and I need suggestions as well.

First night he was at work until midnight, I texted him about watching porn together but did not say anything further about sex. He texted me back with "LOL, will see if I still have energy left after work". I guess he interpreted my watching porn invitation as having sex. I texted him back, "let's see how you feel, no pressure". He replied "LOL, lots of pressure". When he came home, after shower it was like 1am I asked him gently if he is still interested he said no. I did what I was suggested above - said fine, we'll do it later. Then kissed him at cheek and went to sleep. Calm and neutral.

Two nights in a row later, he also worked late. I believe he did it intentionally to avoid going to bed the same time with me. Fine- I did not bring up anything about watching porn or sex related again after the first night. We did talk casually about things for like 30 min both nights and went to bed together. Good sign, he is opening to me more. He hugged me whole night, kissed me before left to work in the morning. Things are going smoothly. Thanks for all the advices from previous posts.

Here is my question. Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary and he said he has a place picked out already and it will be a surprise. What I'd like to do is ask him what he would like to get such as new lens for camera, etc. There is a great chance he will ask me in return too what I want.

I kinda want to tease him a little like "Can I have real 10-sec kiss with you?" which I read from Athol's book. But, think again, it might not be a great idea as this is sort of "initiation" and "pressuring".

Do you guys expert have any great teasers/jokes I can play a little? I hope to expedite things a bit but it's ok too if you think I should stay at this pace and wait until he comes around on his own.