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Or another thing you could say to her (regarding her comment about separation or divorce), is "we could do the separation now when you move out. Don't worry about divorce. I will file the day you go to meet him". A line in the sand!
Once she has decided to stay (I believe she already has) and the shoe is on the other foot. You will be able to take it to the next level. By telling her. " No, the only way you CAN stay is going to individual counseling. and then marital counseling after that ". "I will no longer live this way or put my son through this any longer. We will either work on this marriage and our love or we will end it." No screaming, no fighting. And then tell her the next time she goes out partying with her friends you will change the locks on the doors. You will not stop her or even ask her not to go. Just be sure she knows that the next time it happens. She will be living in the other house.