Originally Posted by Waiting4RightTyme
I am in the same boat as asdfgh and Miss Smiley. I'm not attracted to my husband either, but it's not JUST physically - there's no attraction on ANY level. When we got married, I thought I was in love, but so much has gone under the bridge, and it's his personality that really makes him ugly to me. He has anger management problems, is lazy, is crude and rude, just a lot of stuff. No physical abuse, but some verbal and mean things are said between us. I'm no angel, but I do respect people, which he does not. I've told him 6 years ago that I'm not IN love with him, but we're still here in the same house. We have not made love in years. But he doesn't leave. He has nowhere to go, blah, blah, blah. His job doesn't pay enough for him to be on his own. The house is mine and my children's - not community property. He cannot be happy here, and I know I'm not happy at all. How do I get him to just leave????
So why exactly should he leave? Because you want him to?
Seems to me your only option to force it to talk to a lawyer and see what your options are, based on your exact situation and where you live. Then make it happen.