I've been married for almost 16 years, have 3 children, a nice home etc.
Several years back my hubby had an affair with a much younger woman. I found out about this and asked him to leave, he wouldn't and never actually admitted to the affair. As my children were all very young I made a concious decision to try and make the marriage work. Which I can tell you now, was very tough!
Things seemed to be going ok for the last few years, though my hubby never seemed to be a dedicated family man, always at work and never seemed to make time for me and the kids. I basically do everything at home that involves the upkeep of our farm and house and the kids.
I know things hadn't been perfect for us, but had thought we were working towards the same goals.
Then earlier this year he began to get more distant, didn't want to touch me, more time at work, less interest in me and the kids etc...
But still, I had given my trust back to him and thought he had learned his lesson from the first affair, even though he hadn't owned up. Big mistake on my part!
Things were going from bad to worse recently, he'd been hiding his cellphones and making sure the ring was on silent and they were always locked, also window closing on computer when I entered the room. Extra showers and all that sort of stuff.
I figured he must be seeing someone else and had a fairly good idea who it was.
After several days of me hounding him, I finally got the truth, yes he is having another affair, with someone at work! (the person I thought).
Unfortunately, all of this came to a head in the early hours of xmas morning, quite possibly the worst xmas day I have ever had and ever will.
It was so difficult with the kids.
I did show him the door, which I think was the best thing for both of us. He went straight into her arms, which broke my heart but if he wants her that much, I guess I did the right thing.
Apparently this has been going on for over a year
What can I say, maybe it's for the best, he never really ever put any effort into our marriage or life. I'm just really heartbroken