marriagesucks

From a woman's perspective I can tell you she probably does this because it gives her power. Many women do this thing where they get a high from a guy finding her attractive. They want their partner to know so they tell them. I do it sometimes with my husband. If some guy tries to talk to me and would tell him...watch him get mad. Make sure he knows I still have "value on the market."

I would say however, that your wife takes it to a whole new extreme. To the point of being abusive. Many people have their way of abusing and intimidating their partner....and this is just the one that works for her. It may seem that she does not value you, but I think it starts with her - I think she doesn't really value herself.