| | Re: Help! Am I initiating too much...
It very well could be that he is watching to much porn.
I will tell you, from reading posts here and knowing people in RL, porn WILL and can effect your marriage if its done in access and to the point to where the person viewing the porn, would rather do that than be with their spouse.
If he has a true problem with porn to where he would rather do that then be with you, then chances are no matter how much you initiate or not, no matter how much you try to spice it up, etc, it may fail. Because you would be competing against a computer monitor. I'm sure that's an awful feeling for people to feel they have been replaced by an object. It needs to be dealt with ASAP.
"When people are truly sick and tired of being sick and tired, that's when they will make a change."