Originally Posted by StrugglingMan

He sounds like he's having a mid-life crisis. i think everyone gets tired of all the responsibility involved in being in a long term monogamous relationship. He's just choosing to act on it, rather than talk out what about the relationship he is having troubles with.
A three year mid-life crisis? He does not want to talk about his feelings. He yells at me, "Stop hammering me about my feelings."

Regardless, he is taking the coward's way out and you should just tell him to take his 'dating' proposal and jam it where the sun don't shine and twist it sideways. It just means he wants the romantic side of your life but not the practical.
This is not true. He does not want sex. Refuses BJ's. Has ED.

Tell him to either s**t or get off the pot. Fix the marriage or end it. You don't have to put up with that.