| | Re: H loves to add to my stress level
Lose the dog if you have to. It may be a symbolic thing for him. I had a dog 3 years ago that chewed up my hottub cover. Later he got aggressive with my husband (who was the only one who did much to try to train him) so it was easier just to let him go. A good foster program in my town took him.
As for your H release him emotionally to either stay in your marriage or not. You can't control him and if you did he'll just revolt.
Can I ask you a favor? Would you tell me how you'd like to be treated by a husband. If he was the "perfect" husband how would you like to have had this situation go? Just imagine and write me a "pretend" scenario. (it's really theraputic and I'm curious).