Originally Posted by VeryHurt
Our Depos are NOT divorce related.
I am having a very anxious evening. Crying. Thinking about something that I have not said before in my posts that is causing me great pain and confusion:
In June of 2009, I had a very long surgery on my left leg.
I spent 3 nights in the Hospital for Special Surgery in NYC.
My husband never came to see me.
The day the ambulance took me from NYC to Rehab in NJ, he did not accompany me.
After I arrived in NJ, he did not come to help me settled into my room.
I was in severe pain and exhausted.
I spent 12 days in Rehab where he can to see me 5 times.
During one of these 5 visits, he told me that he "didn't think that he wanted to be married to me anymore." At this point, he was with his sec'y but I did not know.
I also found out later, that she was at my home while I was in NYC and Rehab with her two teenage daughter's swimming in the pool, having BBQ's and I suppose sleeping over.
While I was in Rehab, I also found out that he saw an Attorney.
On June 26, 2009, I was discharged from Rehab after countless hours of painful physical therapy and 5 blood transfusions. My leg surgery was very extensive and I bled a lot.
So, we get home. I am thrilled to see my two very loyal sweet gentle female Golden Retrievers, Molly and Sandy.
My husband goes to the food store and picks up a few items.
He then goes to the Pharmacy to get my pain meds.
He goes to our closet and packs his suitcases and moves into a cottage on a local estate.
I am hysterical crying. He tells be about his sec'y. I beggging him not to go. He leaves.
He left me in pain, hungry, weak as a kitten, unable to walk and in the care of two dogs.
I felt destryoyed.
The next day he calls to see how I am doing.
The following day he stops by to clean the pool.
He is working everyday with the sec'y. She is going to the cottage.
This goes on for 6-8 weeks.
He then says he misses me and wants to move back home.
I did not know at the time that he did not give up the cottage.
He is home for about 3 weeks and then goes on a sailing trip for a month to Greece. During his time at home, he was not himself. He was distant.
I bring him to the airport and he kisses me good-bye.
He barely keeps in contact with me but I later discover that he Texted and E-mailed over 500 times to the sec'y.
I also later found out that he had no intentions of returning to me when he returned from Greece.
He was returning to the cottage. I had no idea.
So, I pick him up at the airport. Durning that time, I lost 20 pounds and had a total make over, including cutting my long brown mid-back hair very short.
He was shocked when he got in the car.
We get home and he tells me that he is returning to the cottage but "I know that I will not be away that long this time."
He lives there for another month but comes back home almost every day.
He later told me that when he came back home in August he knew that he "came home too soon."
In the meantime he is trying to cool things down with the sec'y but she is not giving up. She tells him that you promised me that you were going to leave your wife.
You promised me that id things did not work out with us, you would not fire me.
This crap continues until November when I actually see a lot of E-mails between them and I nearly had a nervous breakdown. I thought that he was done with her.
I confront him and tell him that he has to get rid of her.
He doesn't want to hurt her.
She's a good worker.
I told her that it was over between the two of us.
We are just friends.
She is going through a divorce and needs her job.
There is nothing between us.
By December, I was emotionally shot.
So, we go to see a friend of his Dad's that is a Psyhchiatrist.
We tell him the entire story.
He looks at my husband and says to him, "Can't you see the pain in your wife's face that she is still working with you?"
This was at the end of December of 2009.
Then the Psych asks me, "When do you want her gone?"
I said in "two weeks."
He then said to me, "If your husband does not fire her two weeks, I want you to go to an Attorney and file for divorce."
Less than two weeks later, he fires her. She is livid and will not sign the letter from our Business Attorney.
She contacts an Attorney and blackmails my husband. She said that "she has over 500 E-mails that are very harmful and embarassing to his customers, his wife and his son."
She gets 30K.
My husband blames me. If only I could have just let her continue to work there. Why couldn't I just believe that they were just friends? Why didn't I trust him? Besides even if he "fired her he could still see her."
The End........for now.........I'm drained.............Very Hurt