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Shianne · 06-04-2011, 01:28 AM

Which challenges?
The one where I struggle with getting a sitter to even attend court hearings? thats hard...
I could go on and on lol but honestly I choose this and I like it much better than the way it was ... but...
I have no time for me but if I could I would not take it.
He struggles to give a good supervised visit for an hour a week at a park.
I struggle to protect and heal my babies...
I struggle to keep their Dad a good person in their eyes but he makes it hard.
I struggle to get him to care, sometimes when I tell him it is the only thing that I am impressed with he will do okay for a few days.
I have to choose sleep or me time.
Tonight I choose me time on the computer in the dark admittedly wallowing in anger and what ifs
I miss sex... but have no time for it much less finding a partner.
How do I explain to my kids that they should not feel bad for him and that he does the sad sack act on purpose without making him look bad? That is a struggle

I have a different divorce experience than all that I know but it is mine. I have the 3 kids 100% of the time.
I just wish I could split in 3 pieces so I could do more.
He was mean and abusive so I was doing all of their care all of their lives so it is actually easier without worrying about him anymore
I will stop but I feel for you... that is certain...

06-04-2011, 01:28 AM	#3 (permalink)
Shianne Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 157	Re: Your challenges as a single parent... Which challenges? The one where I struggle with getting a sitter to even attend court hearings? thats hard... I could go on and on lol but honestly I choose this and I like it much better than the way it was ... but... I have no time for me but if I could I would not take it. He struggles to give a good supervised visit for an hour a week at a park. I struggle to protect and heal my babies... I struggle to keep their Dad a good person in their eyes but he makes it hard. I struggle to get him to care, sometimes when I tell him it is the only thing that I am impressed with he will do okay for a few days. I have to choose sleep or me time. Tonight I choose me time on the computer in the dark admittedly wallowing in anger and what ifs I miss sex... but have no time for it much less finding a partner. How do I explain to my kids that they should not feel bad for him and that he does the sad sack act on purpose without making him look bad? That is a struggle I have a different divorce experience than all that I know but it is mine. I have the 3 kids 100% of the time. I just wish I could split in 3 pieces so I could do more. He was mean and abusive so I was doing all of their care all of their lives so it is actually easier without worrying about him anymore I will stop but I feel for you... that is certain...