 how do I tell my husband Im lonely and need his attention without........
Help me out here, I could really use the advice, Im lost.... Ive tried to talk to my husband a million times, but nothing i say gets through to him. He's the kind of person that freezes up and tries to avoide all serious communication. We have been married for 7months, so yeah were still "newly weds". when we first got together and first got married things were great between we were intamate on a regular basis, and he was very affectionate and complimented me all the time, but shortly afterwards he started pulling away and now he's not affectionate at all, he never hugs or kisses me unless I iniate it, when I iniate intercourse he doesnt act interrested, he does iniciate intersourse occasionally maybe 1time every other week or so but when he does it's usually by saying lets do it or get naked and when he says that it completely turns me away from the idea. I am currently 6 1/2 months pregnant with out son which would make sense for him to be less attracted to me now since I am a huge whale however this problem started before I even started showing. No matter what I do or how hard I try he never compliments me, and it's not like he pulls away from me but he does act annoyed if I try to hug or kiss him during the day it seems the only time he wants to give me any attention is at bedtime. I know he's not cheating since he cant drive because he's on house arrest for the next 12months, and I take him everywhere he goes and thats only to work, so Im haveing a hard time figuring out the problem. Ive tried telling him Im lonely, Ive tried explaining how I feel, Ive written letters, verbally told him, sent him e-mails and even tried communicating through music but now it's like were just going through the motions... he does tell me he loves me very often that is the only thing that hasn't changed, but everything else has even how we have sex has changed it used to have emotion with it and feel meaningful but now it's again just going through the motions with no meaning and afterwards he just rolls over and goes to sleep, every time.....all he does is play video games and he constantly wants other people over, we already have 3kids so when we do get an overnight babysitter I woulkd love to spend an evening of just me and him, but he never wants to he always wants someone here and if it ever is just me and him he stays absorbed into his video games, or a phone call to some family member or on here playing games. He acts asif I bore him and he cant stand to be around me unless he wants to have sex, any other time I feel invisable and it hurts me badly, so any adive here on what to do and how to be heard?
(sorry please forgive my spelling it's 6am and Im still not asleep, yeah Im so distrought over this behavior that's it interferes with everything, including my sleeping and eating)
- - - Broken and Lonely =/
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