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Deejo · 06-07-2011, 09:33 AM

Nowhere did I state to ignore what's going on. What I'm saying is to change how you address it.

Bottom line ... are you prepared to accept your marriage as it is?

I'm presuming you aren't. You have indicated that you have done all of the legwork in trying to discover what turns her on and how she feels about sex. And according to her the answers are 'Nothing and indifferent.' Not much question that your spouse has a low sex drive. I apologize for not being fully familiar with your history, was that always the case?

If you believe she is already doing the best she can in trying to step up and address your needs, then at some point in time you will need to decide if her effort is acceptable to you.

What I'm suggesting, is that if she values the marriage, she should be willing to explore the issue, with an MD or a therapist ... so at the very least, even if she isn't 'feeling it' she recognizes that you do, and it's important to you.

06-07-2011, 09:33 AM	#79 (permalink)
Deejo Moderator Join Date: May 2008 Location: MA Posts: 5,100	Re: What is seduction to you? Nowhere did I state to ignore what's going on. What I'm saying is to change how you address it. Bottom line ... are you prepared to accept your marriage as it is? I'm presuming you aren't. You have indicated that you have done all of the legwork in trying to discover what turns her on and how she feels about sex. And according to her the answers are 'Nothing and indifferent.' Not much question that your spouse has a low sex drive. I apologize for not being fully familiar with your history, was that always the case? If you believe she is already doing the best she can in trying to step up and address your needs, then at some point in time you will need to decide if her effort is acceptable to you. What I'm suggesting, is that if she values the marriage, she should be willing to explore the issue, with an MD or a therapist ... so at the very least, even if she isn't 'feeling it' she recognizes that you do, and it's important to you. __________________ "I figured out they were serious eventually but was thinking it was ridiculous. I wanted to kick them in the balls." - Trenton Last edited by Deejo; 06-07-2011 at 09:39 AM.