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Scannerguard · 06-08-2011, 02:46 PM

I am a single father of 3 too - all boys. Challenges abound. Hard to summarize them.

I admit I do "guy mistakes" a lot when taking care of them. I have forgotten to sign homework a lot, and I felt really bad the other day when I forgot to give my middle son lunch money for Field Day and he didn't eat lunch. I am getting better at being in charge of health though . . .getting them on flouride supplemetns and getting them caught up on doctor/dentists visits that they have been behind on.

But forgetting that sort of stuff I know will make the ex fume beyond recognition. (most women fume when their ex-husband forgets to do the "mother" things)

My take as a father on divorce is the system gears up so the kids lose a father and gains 2 half time mothers in a way. . .my cooking has gotten a little better though. A little.

Yesterday, there was a lot of screaming in our house. I just let the boys all scream it out. The two older ones were resentful because they wanted to go fishing, and wanted me to come, but it was just too much with the toddler messing all around with fishing hooks and whatnot. I told them I would go, and drop them off and pick them up, but I just couldn't fish with them (what's teh point if I am chasing a toddler?).

They were both pretty much saying how they hated the toddler's presence.

I know I should have stopped the hurtful words but I know it's on their minds so I just let them say it. I sat with the oldest one and let him offer any suggestions and he essentially had none.

But the pro is the boys aren't split up. She was very dead-set against that at all.

The thing is I wouldn't care so much if an uncle, aunt, or whatever would step in and fill my void but my family lives far away and her family is simply disinterested. I didn't see her family once attend a soccer game or baseball game this season (unless they made the ones I wasn't there at, I probably made 60%).

And so another dysfunctional week goes by in the Scannerguard household. . .

06-08-2011, 02:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
Scannerguard Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 1,624	Re: Your challenges as a single parent... I am a single father of 3 too - all boys. Challenges abound. Hard to summarize them. I admit I do "guy mistakes" a lot when taking care of them. I have forgotten to sign homework a lot, and I felt really bad the other day when I forgot to give my middle son lunch money for Field Day and he didn't eat lunch. I am getting better at being in charge of health though . . .getting them on flouride supplemetns and getting them caught up on doctor/dentists visits that they have been behind on. But forgetting that sort of stuff I know will make the ex fume beyond recognition. (most women fume when their ex-husband forgets to do the "mother" things) My take as a father on divorce is the system gears up so the kids lose a father and gains 2 half time mothers in a way. . .my cooking has gotten a little better though. A little. Yesterday, there was a lot of screaming in our house. I just let the boys all scream it out. The two older ones were resentful because they wanted to go fishing, and wanted me to come, but it was just too much with the toddler messing all around with fishing hooks and whatnot. I told them I would go, and drop them off and pick them up, but I just couldn't fish with them (what's teh point if I am chasing a toddler?). They were both pretty much saying how they hated the toddler's presence. I know I should have stopped the hurtful words but I know it's on their minds so I just let them say it. I sat with the oldest one and let him offer any suggestions and he essentially had none. But the pro is the boys aren't split up. She was very dead-set against that at all. The thing is I wouldn't care so much if an uncle, aunt, or whatever would step in and fill my void but my family lives far away and her family is simply disinterested. I didn't see her family once attend a soccer game or baseball game this season (unless they made the ones I wasn't there at, I probably made 60%). And so another dysfunctional week goes by in the Scannerguard household. . . __________________ And maybe I seem a bit confused. . .but maybe, I got you pegged! Ha! Don't know what to do about those tossed salad and scrambled eggs. . .they're posting again. Scannerguard has left the building.