posman

My wife and I have been together for 28 years. For the last 20 to 21 years I have dealt with her supposedly anxiety disorder costing us financially big time. We had 4 children together all grown now and I have a job that to me is a dream job being I'm able to finally travel and when I leave I usually gone anywhere from a month to maybe 3 - 6 months in different parts of the country. As of right now I only been home 3 days in the past 6 months. Well my thing is that my job allows for your spouse to go with you. They in a way feel it makes you a more well rounded employee if your partner is with you on these assignments. Well in the last 6 months 3 were spent in Chicago and now I'm in California and have been here over 2 months. In Chicago I flew her up there and she hadn't been there 4 days and started having her anxiety disorder and I had to fly her back then as soon as she gets on the plane and gets home she's cured being she just runs to her Mother's. Same think when I came to California. I had to drive her she came along and I was telling her that when I was finished we'd take a well deserved vacation, well after 3 week anxiety again. By the time we reach Salt Lake City to change planes she acting ok. Get home I stay for 3 days catch my flight back and before I get to Atlanta to change planes she's back at her mother's. I have dealt with this kind of stuff for 20+ years. The only child that I have that doesn't have stability problems is my eldest from my 1st marriage. In the early years I had a couple of affairs because her being with her Mother was more important than being home with me and here I am now gone 6 months and have been alone over 90% of it. Our daughters, the eldest being 27 tells me, "Dad, I just don't understand Mom. I know you get lonely and you do everything you can. I'm sure there maybe you can meet someone if you'd just go out some instead of sitting in that hotel. All it seems is Mom wants to do is be with Maw Maw." You see, I'm 52 yo, and still attractive and have women come on to me still at times. And also my wife, I spent the money to get her dentures being she had a gum disease. Well, she has done turned me off so bad being if I take her out to a nice restaurant , the 1st thing she does is take her teeth out and that's the uppers, she has refused to wear the lowers since she got them. I haven't kissed a woman in forever. I guess what I'm asking is the problem me? Her family says it is and that I'm being selfish and my daughters say no Dad your not. Now my daughters mind you are lookers! I told my wife that in my opinion the problem is with her and her mother. My wife is the only one that has had only one husband. Her mother was married twice. Her Dad (God Rest His Soul!) left her when he was about the same age I am know and remarried. And her sister just finished up with her 2nd and now is looking for number 3. I would just like someone else's take on this. This is just a kinda brief overview. I could gone on for days and you just wouldn't believe some of the things I've dealt with. Sorry it's so long but I'd appreciate anyone's input. It would have to be from a outsider being I don't know anyone here. Thanks.