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brad · 01-16-2009, 08:27 PM

I was your husband for the first three years of my marriage. I had trouble with intimacy. I could be the romantic guy with every woman I was with in the beginning and then it would fizzle for me. I traced it to my family who never showed love for one another.

It finally turned for me. My wife started accepting the way I was and stopped pushing, pleading, and demanding. It gave me space to see how good of a wife she was. My heart finally connected.

Unfortanatly when I started to become affectionate towards my wife she in turn became angry with me for all the years of neglect. We are working on things now.

Start backing off and being a fun person to be around. show your husband you are your own person who could survive without him. It may give him a different perspective of the situation.

01-16-2009, 08:27 PM	#11 (permalink)
brad Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: phoenix Posts: 178	Re: how do I tell my husband Im lonely and need his attention without........ I was your husband for the first three years of my marriage. I had trouble with intimacy. I could be the romantic guy with every woman I was with in the beginning and then it would fizzle for me. I traced it to my family who never showed love for one another. It finally turned for me. My wife started accepting the way I was and stopped pushing, pleading, and demanding. It gave me space to see how good of a wife she was. My heart finally connected. Unfortanatly when I started to become affectionate towards my wife she in turn became angry with me for all the years of neglect. We are working on things now. Start backing off and being a fun person to be around. show your husband you are your own person who could survive without him. It may give him a different perspective of the situation.