Originally Posted by MarkTwain
From your posts it is obvious that you are getting something out of this too. That is why you have not stopped it, and that is why you have not told your wife.
I don't see a problem with people keeping in touch with EXs if all the spouses are OK with it, and the relationship is healthy. For instance, my Ex of 20 years ago is coming round to see my wife later today - they meditate together, and we are all good friends.
In your case, the relationship is unhealthy. Even when I go away on business I don't call my wife every night - I give her a rest form me occasionally.
This woman wants to contact you every single day. One day her husband will find her phone records.
Stop it now.
If it were me, I would tell my wife. However, only you know how your wife would react. It's not worth it if she divorcees you. But you can pick your words carefully: "Honey I have a stalker - HELP".
I realise English is not your first language, I hope my post was clear.
Thanks...for your reply....!
I have almost stopped talking to her now. She told me she will call after one month. But she called me again today and i didnot pick her phone.
And i have understood that its must...!
About healthy relation ...ya i understand talking everyday is not right.
My wife knows her.I had told her about Ex before marraige. Today we were at community hall where prayers and lecture of one of our gurus was there. I went with my wife and my Ex had also came there.
It was almost after 6 months we saw each other. But we didnot talk at all. My wife after the programe smiled and said " You did not notice but i know you both were looking at each other during the programe." and continued " It happens ...man...! I can understand" and teases me that after seeing my ex , I am looking more happy...etc...etc.