| | Re: flip flop emotions driving me insane...
Agree - when your W wants to go somewhere like that again, just decline. She doesn't get to drag your ass around anymore. You ever see American Beauty? One of my absolute favorite scenes in that movie is when Kevin Spacey serves Annette Benning and her OM burgers at the drive through. She starts to tell him not to say/do something, and he says, "Nope. You never get to tell me what to do, ever, again." It was awesome. Take this approach.
And yeah, I would almost be a d*ck to my W right now in your situation. Lot's of "whatever"s and "I don't care"s and "no, not doing that"s.
I think I said this before to someone. Find a female companion - not a lover or GF necessarily, but an opposite sex friend that you can maybe have a meal with or something. Show your wife you are moving on and aren't torn up inside. It's not doing you any good to show this to anyone. Imagine how good you would feel going on a casual date?