| | Re: Help please! Married 13 years w/ 3 kids.
This does sound like a difficult situation. He could be depressed, and this is causing him to sit around and act so passive. He may need medical help for this. But he simply must look for employment, and ease the stress on you. He must contribute to the well-being and survival of his family. You will need to have a very frank talk with him about these things.
Of course only you can make the final decision to end the marriage. If it appears that sending him away is the right choice, do you have a lot of support? Family and friends who can help you, agencies you can go to for assistance? These will be so important. I can't imagine how tough it will be to manage three young children and your illness on your own, though to be honest, it sounds like that is already what you are doing.
I wish you all the best.