| | Re: Girls Night Out - Jealous again.
I remember pulling out for my final cruise when I was in the Navy. I had a couple of cruises under my belt. My wife was pregnant. I did get to rotate off of sea duty just prior to my daughter being born.
Anyway, there were a couple guys in my shop that this was their first cruise. Both married with a couple of kids each. They had married their high school sweet hearts. Their wives had become close friends. Lovely ladies really. Very sweet and innocent. Certainly nice to look at. They were not drinkers or party girls. Their hubbys were definitely faithful nice guys.
So our wives saw us off at peir 12. Not a fun time. BUT, due to the tide or what not, we did not pull out on schedule. It was delayed two days. So I called my wife and she came and picked me up. We dropped these other guys home as well.
It was late in the evening when we got to their apartments in base housing.
Their apartments were dark. They checked with their neghbor and both their kids were there. The lady who lived there seemed strangley animated and really beside herself. My wife and I went on home. What I found out later was that the sweet little wives had decided to go out clubbing and drinking the very first night of thier hubbys cruise. I don;t know the real name of the club but it was referred to as the body exchange. Essentially they were not going to let thier husbands absence deter thier fun and sexual escapades. They each went for a Bigger, Better, Deal, BBD at their first opportunity.
It was painful for me during the cruise as they would come to me to help them interpret the mail they were getting from their wives. Not uncommon BTW for less experinced sailors to confide in others. Call it mentoring. It was much like this forum. A lot of BS coming from the wives about needing some fun ... Essentially the wives partied on for months living on their husbands benefits and needless to say these guys had to grow up fast and divorce them. They were nice guys. Loved thier wives and adored their children. They even stayed faithful. Go figure. Chumps I guess. I respected them.
I of course saw the other side of activities from other sailors who partied over seas like they were single. So this is not women bashing. Just all around sad from both genders. Men and women behaving badly.
When I was a younger sailor and before I was married I had plenty of married women hitting on me in clubs. Really. I guess I had game back then before I knew what game was. Talking mostly europe here. Women on vacation. Had more than one husband who wanted me to "date" their wives. Some of the posters here remind me of them quite frankly. UFB. And no. Too creepy for me.
Had fun with some party girls but essentially I was looking for a woman of substance. I eventually got lucky. I did not find her in bar.
I only post this because it probably shows some insight on why I am pretty discusted with girls ( or guys ) behaving badly. My personal makeup makes me notice the carnage that it does to others. I hate to see folks treat people who really care about them badly and yet turn their bodies and souls over to @$$holes and skanks. I am human so I understand we are not perfect. But I have made my share of mistakes for sure so I understand somewhat.
It just kills me though when folks play the trust card in these situations. It is very naive to think that even the strongest of us cannot be seduced when we are vulnerable. It usually takes a fall to realize that.
Ladies, I know many of you don't care but when you just disregard your husbands concerns about these meat market GNOs and rationalize it all away, the message you send to the person who cares about you the most in the world is that you value your urges to go after that BBD over them. Not about trust. It is about respect and yes love. I do hope it works out for your marriages, I really do.
Last edited by Entropy3000; 06-20-2011 at 10:15 PM.