| | Re: tired of faking it
I don't want to get into too much personal detail but yes, I have done this (involuntarily as well as voluntarily). It does not seem to have changed his technique (this has been going on a long time). Eventually I just quit all together - no more of that. But I really don't want to give up - and really, I don't think he does either. I guess he has never asked - in an exploring way. he has asked in a "tell me" way, but at a point you just can't be so specific all the time. i guess I am looking for a magic bullet that might not exist - something that would make him go "aha". But given that he doesn't think porn is okay, doesn't read books about sex, doesn't want to talk about and doesn't ask, there isn't much left. I've thought about asking him to a tantric sex workshop. I can just imagine his reaction, but I have been searching for anything.