| | Re: tired of faking it
Maybe you need to just be blunt - in a loving way. "Honey - oral sex is not working for me, and sometimes it hurts. I am not sure why, but the technique we are using does not work for me. I would like for us both to explore together and try to find ways to make it better and enjoyable for me. Will you help me with this issue and would you be willing to try some different things if I do the research on it?"
The above statement is blunt, but not criticizing or blaming him. It states the problem and suggests a solution and asks for his help in finding a better way.
If he refuses to help then you have more than just a sex problem!