Originally Posted by GPR
It's like a group of male lions strutting their stuff. They don't want to look un-masculine in front of other men. With some it overpowers them to the point that they do some stupid things.
My H did something similar when he was out with some guy friends. He didnt tell me, but by the look on his face i could tell he was hiding something. So I pried it out of him.
I dont think you are overreacting at all. It sounds like the lines were very clear on what was acceptable and not acceptable. dont let him off the hook. dont just try to get over it b/c he thinks you're over reacting. keep trying to talk it out. If you can work it out, then you can be sure he will learn from it.
I talked to my H when he did a similar thing. i told him i understood he felt pressured and didnt want to seem ridiculous leaving. but i kept talking to him until he realized that next time the right thing to do would be to walk away.
Make sure you validate how your H is feeilng, too. if he was hurt that you didnt appreciate his 'art', then talk about that. Tell him you would be glad to talk about how this made him feel, but right now you need him to understand how his actions affected you.