| | Re: Dealing with consequences of affair
So your only consequence for the maggaige is now you have a zombie for a husband?
Maybe it would be easier for you if you gave your self back to him and called him 5 or six times a day. Try being accountable for your time by giving him your reciepts. Does he have full access to your cell phone and computor?
Have you kneeled at his feet and asked for his punishment? what have you told him about the affair? Are you willing to answer all his ughly and painful question about the OM.
I know this sh8t is hard to do especially the details but my wife told me what I needed to know, she has recieved her spanking and has fully submitted to my needs for healing. She account for her time and makes no excuse to not turn in a reciept, her time card, pay stub,cell, and the words of remores and graditude for taking her back.
She has laid down everything at my feet and has only asked one thing...my love.
She has to trust me that I won't go back to the old "the guy" she has to trust that I will continue my 180 and stick with my healthier behaviors. As she continues her efforts I find it very healing in continueing mine.
Its easy to forgive when your cheating spouse does the heavy lifting to get the LS out of there funk.
The greatest thing you can do right now is call him all the time...I.m talken when you get to work, at break, at lunch, when you leave. something about just checking in to say were your at and asking if theres any thing you can do or just saying I love you will mean alot.
Or forget everything I just said and take him to a strip club ,by him a hooker and drop him off at the bar, maybe he'll meet some "friends".