I have been married for 6 years and my husband & I are in our 50's. My husband was out of work when we married (I know, this should have been a sign, but he promised it was just timing and that he would find a great job soon). After about 6 months and a lot of pleading, he found a job, he hated it and worked only as much as he had to. Soon I found out that not only did he owed family $5,000 but thathe owed back taxes $17,000 and that his credit cards were $6,000not $2,000. I had already purchaced a car for him because he lost his to his creditor.
He kept a job for about 2.5 years then slowed down so much in his work that they let him go. He was on unemployeement for 1 year and then worked about for almost 1 year then was let go because his boss and him could not agree on how to run the business. He hasn't had a job now for over 1 year.
I have told him I want a divorce and I will not support him any longer. He says he is making more money on unemployment then he could make working. Of course we all know that will go away and he will still be out of a job. I really don't think he wants to work and I feel used for taking care of all his bad debts.
He says I knew he had debt when I married him and he will get a job then we will be fine. He keeps telling me this isn't a reason to end the promise we made to each when we got married.
I am so tired of barely being able to pay the bills and never a vacation because we can't afford to go anywhere. He has no health insurance and no retirement. I have mine but if we stay married that will have to cover both of us. I don't see that he will ever have a job that will bring in benefits. I want to be able to spend money doing things with family and friend but again we can't. He talked me into signing a mortage that I can't afford on my own with his promise that he would get a job and make plenty of money.
Is this a reason to divorce or am I being unrealisitc and unfair to him? I do love him and we have fun together but like all relationships there are more problems than the money but that is the one that is the hardest to deal with right now.
He kept a job for about 2.5 years then slowed down so much in his work that they let him go. He was on unemployeement for 1 year and then worked about for almost 1 year then was let go because his boss and him could not agree on how to run the business. He hasn't had a job now for over 1 year.
I have told him I want a divorce and I will not support him any longer. He says he is making more money on unemployment then he could make working. Of course we all know that will go away and he will still be out of a job. I really don't think he wants to work and I feel used for taking care of all his bad debts.
He says I knew he had debt when I married him and he will get a job then we will be fine. He keeps telling me this isn't a reason to end the promise we made to each when we got married.
I am so tired of barely being able to pay the bills and never a vacation because we can't afford to go anywhere. He has no health insurance and no retirement. I have mine but if we stay married that will have to cover both of us. I don't see that he will ever have a job that will bring in benefits. I want to be able to spend money doing things with family and friend but again we can't. He talked me into signing a mortage that I can't afford on my own with his promise that he would get a job and make plenty of money.
Is this a reason to divorce or am I being unrealisitc and unfair to him? I do love him and we have fun together but like all relationships there are more problems than the money but that is the one that is the hardest to deal with right now.