Originally Posted by tg-1
How do I make her understand that what she is doing is wrong?
By walking out... Seriously, she needs to understand cause and effect here. Very few things are simply black and white. By you saying you didn't like it, she should know something was wrong, and either do something to show that it really isn't, and/or stopping what's going on. We all know that there probably have been times when a spouse got upset over this and it really was nothing, but this doesn't sound like one of those times at all...
You need to tell her that she needs to knock it off, realize what's wrong with what's she's doing.... or you're done. Plain and simple.
What she is doing is simply re-directing blame. She seems to be a very good manipulator. She's making you feel guilty for things she is doing wrong.