Originally Posted by oilfieldguy

When I was cheating I fully expected that if caught my marriage was going to be over. I did not care while cheating at all. Thought of it often but always said I oh well. I to always said after I got caught thats it I am not doing this any more. But it never last. I had demons that I did not know I had. Once I understood what was going on in my head way in the back where you never looked I learned to fight it. There is a cycle that a serial cheater goes through. Once the steps of the cycle are known it became easy to interupe the cycle.

Appleif your ex does not know whats going on in the back of his mind he will never really feel remorse. He needs to become aware of his demons and what starts the cycle. He most likely does not even know there is a cycle. Until he finds out what makes him start the cycle he will never stop cheating. Once he gets to that point then the flood gates open he will say sorry and mean it one day.