draconis

By the sounds of what you said I would guess that the marriage was religious, tribal and/or cultural.

I would also say that it is highly likely that you are muslim or hindu.

That you live in the mideast or southeast asia area.

That you or your family paid so you could marry her.

Now I have never been in the situation you are in, I have had a friend who was a part of an arranged marriage.

Often people prefer the term making love to sex. For her there is no love there thus nothing to make. For her only her "job" to procreate needs the act of sex. With that said I don't blame her. Many arranged marriages are not happy ones. Why should she take care of your urges, submitting to you.

I think the only way for you to have a shot in the dark at being happy is to talk to a local cleric, monk, priest etc.

Also you may want to see if the marriage can be annullled so you can find a partner that actually does love you.

draconis