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LucyInSC · 01-27-2009, 08:40 AM

Yes he can tell me anything. I truly mean that. My gut tells me that he has/had some kind of relationship going on outside of our marriage because of his reaction. If he were to tell me what it is I wouldn't freak. I would consider it a major step forward. Thank you for the insight that I should keep talking without pressuring him to answer. I never realized that before. I always would ask him questions that he would not answer then things escalated. What I have to work on is not being so afraid. I am unable to look at him when I try to talk about this. His eyes turn cold as steel and I can't think or form the right words. That is why I waited till bed so I could just hold him and talk in his ear. I do consider my talk Sunday night to be a success. I at least told him I wasn't ok. That I need to know the truth before I can get over this.

01-27-2009, 08:40 AM	#11 (permalink)
LucyInSC Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: South Carolina Posts: 71	Re: Nervous. Going to try to communicate with H Yes he can tell me anything. I truly mean that. My gut tells me that he has/had some kind of relationship going on outside of our marriage because of his reaction. If he were to tell me what it is I wouldn't freak. I would consider it a major step forward. Thank you for the insight that I should keep talking without pressuring him to answer. I never realized that before. I always would ask him questions that he would not answer then things escalated. What I have to work on is not being so afraid. I am unable to look at him when I try to talk about this. His eyes turn cold as steel and I can't think or form the right words. That is why I waited till bed so I could just hold him and talk in his ear. I do consider my talk Sunday night to be a success. I at least told him I wasn't ok. That I need to know the truth before I can get over this.