Originally Posted by CoffeeTime
Sex for women is in the mind, emotions as much as the body and many times in that order. Some women have to first get comfortable to have an orgasm on their own before they can share that with someone else. But sounds like there is a lot more going on underneath the surface (her stopping you when she is close) which counseling would help her work through that. But if she would be willing to use a vibrator and you are 100% supportive, it is very effective! It helps many women to reach orgasm for the first time.
i agree with trying a vibrator for the first time til she gets the hang of what having one to completion really feels like.
but something i can't understand is why people automatically recommend counseling when a woman doesn't orgasm? when i couldn't orgasm i always felt so paranoid when people would jump to saying i had mental issues and need counseling. not having an orgasm doesn't automatically equal mental issues that require therapy.
it might sometimes but most of the time it's something simple such as the pee thing or fear of losing control...things that can be worked through without a therapist butting into the woman's thoughts.