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bluediamond · 07-07-2011, 03:27 PM

he's always kinda has had a bad attitude. We acually were friends since we have been 17, we are now 32, even whent to high school together too. We started talking about holding off to have kids, but it was to late, I was already pregnant and didn't know it. He says he loves me all the time and when I say it back he almost always says "no you don't". I know it would break his heart if I actually left. Also in January he signed up with match.com. and I caught him. I figured out his password. I didn't tell him that I knew for about 3 months. He put all his info in there, said he was seperated and all that but never uploaded any pics or anything, he also never opened any of there emailes that thay sent him that I am aware of. Anyway when I finally confronted him he said he was doing it to get my attention. I asked him why he would delete them a soon as possible? He forgot that my cell phone gets the emails also. I don't think he did anything, but its just the whole fact of doing it. Here is also a. Something he did last weekend for instance for the 4th of July, we put our pontoon in on this certain lake, and I invited my cousin, his wife and 2 kids to go out on the boat with us, he had a complete fit the morning before, about kids comming on the boat and this and that, and he knew about it, because I had discussed with him, so he eventually relaxed and the next day my son was gonna come out after he was off work, well as soon as my son got off, He through a fit about how it was his day to relax and he wanted to take the boat off the lake becuase his whole day is ruined because my son was comming out, and he did, so my son never got to go out on the boat that day. He also tells my son "why dont you go to your dads, why are you here? Hes just so mean sometimes!! Thats just one little incident. My son doesnt want me to leave him because he said if I do, We wont have a nice house and any money, because he supports us and everything we have. So my son said to stay with him. I think Im going to start documenting all the negetive and mean things he says to me, my son and anyone else. I will try to talk to him about counseling again and see what he says, if not what should I do, I dont have anyone to talk to this about except with my parents and my son, they are the only ones I completly trust. This sucks, I didnted want this kind of marriage, I wanted to be so much in love and have a wonderful family to go along with it, I guess I just keep thinking things will change, or just stick it out.
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bluediamond Registered User Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 3	Re: Is it all me? not happy he's always kinda has had a bad attitude. We acually were friends since we have been 17, we are now 32, even whent to high school together too. We started talking about holding off to have kids, but it was to late, I was already pregnant and didn't know it. He says he loves me all the time and when I say it back he almost always says "no you don't". I know it would break his heart if I actually left. Also in January he signed up with match.com. and I caught him. I figured out his password. I didn't tell him that I knew for about 3 months. He put all his info in there, said he was seperated and all that but never uploaded any pics or anything, he also never opened any of there emailes that thay sent him that I am aware of. Anyway when I finally confronted him he said he was doing it to get my attention. I asked him why he would delete them a soon as possible? He forgot that my cell phone gets the emails also. I don't think he did anything, but its just the whole fact of doing it. Here is also a. Something he did last weekend for instance for the 4th of July, we put our pontoon in on this certain lake, and I invited my cousin, his wife and 2 kids to go out on the boat with us, he had a complete fit the morning before, about kids comming on the boat and this and that, and he knew about it, because I had discussed with him, so he eventually relaxed and the next day my son was gonna come out after he was off work, well as soon as my son got off, He through a fit about how it was his day to relax and he wanted to take the boat off the lake becuase his whole day is ruined because my son was comming out, and he did, so my son never got to go out on the boat that day. He also tells my son "why dont you go to your dads, why are you here? Hes just so mean sometimes!! Thats just one little incident. My son doesnt want me to leave him because he said if I do, We wont have a nice house and any money, because he supports us and everything we have. So my son said to stay with him. I think Im going to start documenting all the negetive and mean things he says to me, my son and anyone else. I will try to talk to him about counseling again and see what he says, if not what should I do, I dont have anyone to talk to this about except with my parents and my son, they are the only ones I completly trust. This sucks, I didnted want this kind of marriage, I wanted to be so much in love and have a wonderful family to go along with it, I guess I just keep thinking things will change, or just stick it out. Posted via Mobile Device Last edited by bluediamond; 07-07-2011 at 05:33 PM.