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euphoricdelusions · 01-27-2009, 01:27 PM

Actually, a lot of it applies.

When the problems started, his mother suddenly began to hate me. That, and she began poking her nose in our marriage. She and I had always been somewhat close, but suddenly her feelings for me changed. What I did to her I don't know, and probably never will as we don't speak anymore.

My husband, God love him, didn't want to upset her. He knew she was in the wrong, but rarely said anything to defend me. When we moved he vowed to never speak to her again (it got really bad towards the end of our living there) and we got our phone numbers changed. A few months ago he decides to call her up and give her his number, in case of "emergency". I felt SO betrayed by this. I understand it's his mother, but the way she treated me...she tried as hard as she could to split us up. I felt as if he had taken her side.

Aside from that, I do EVERYTHING. He works, and works hard, at his job. I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of kids, take care of the pets, handle ALL the bills, and work at night cleaning model homes for major home builders. Granted, he goes with me to my job and helps, but I've never asked him to.

Other than lack of sex, we are an affectionate couple and we have a lot of fun together. We do everything together, and all of our friends are envious of our relationship. A friend of mine even went so far as to say we were made for each other and complement each other well.

He always goes out of the way to tell me how much he loves me. Sometimes he even leaves little notes for me in the mornings on his way to work. If I ask for a backrub, he gives me one (only he always tries to get something in return).

We have talked about all these issues and he does better for about a week, but then it goes back to the same. I've thought about counseling, but I know he won't go. Besides, we don't have the money for it. I'm at the point now where I just don't know what to do anymore, but I refuse to give up!

01-27-2009, 01:27 PM	#3 (permalink)
euphoricdelusions Registered User Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 9	Re: Is something wrong with me? Actually, a lot of it applies. When the problems started, his mother suddenly began to hate me. That, and she began poking her nose in our marriage. She and I had always been somewhat close, but suddenly her feelings for me changed. What I did to her I don't know, and probably never will as we don't speak anymore. My husband, God love him, didn't want to upset her. He knew she was in the wrong, but rarely said anything to defend me. When we moved he vowed to never speak to her again (it got really bad towards the end of our living there) and we got our phone numbers changed. A few months ago he decides to call her up and give her his number, in case of "emergency". I felt SO betrayed by this. I understand it's his mother, but the way she treated me...she tried as hard as she could to split us up. I felt as if he had taken her side. Aside from that, I do EVERYTHING. He works, and works hard, at his job. I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of kids, take care of the pets, handle ALL the bills, and work at night cleaning model homes for major home builders. Granted, he goes with me to my job and helps, but I've never asked him to. Other than lack of sex, we are an affectionate couple and we have a lot of fun together. We do everything together, and all of our friends are envious of our relationship. A friend of mine even went so far as to say we were made for each other and complement each other well. He always goes out of the way to tell me how much he loves me. Sometimes he even leaves little notes for me in the mornings on his way to work. If I ask for a backrub, he gives me one (only he always tries to get something in return). We have talked about all these issues and he does better for about a week, but then it goes back to the same. I've thought about counseling, but I know he won't go. Besides, we don't have the money for it. I'm at the point now where I just don't know what to do anymore, but I refuse to give up!