Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Please give advise-marriage help!!

PartlyCloudy · 07-10-2011, 01:22 PM

It's difficult to maintain a strong, trusting relationship when one spouse is away in the military, even if there's been no cheating, so it makes a lot of sense that it's taking your wife longer to work through this. It's good that the two of you are able to Skype everyday, but o/c that doesn't even come close to being together. I can only imagine how hard it must be for your wife (& you) dealing w/the ramifications of your cheating while also having to be apart. I think it's going to take a lot more time still.

Very good suggestions in these posts. I'd like to add that you should be very specific. When you're giving your wife a compliment, don't just tell her she's beautiful. Tell her you love how she crinkles her nose when she laughs or how soft the skin on the curve of her hip is & how you miss touching it or whatever it is about HER that you find so beautiful, whatever it is that you notice when you look @ HER, what separates her from other women. If you are taking her out or buying flowers, put a lot of thought into personalizing what you're doing for her.

Good luck. Thank you very much for your service.

07-10-2011, 01:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
PartlyCloudy Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: SE USA Posts: 78	Re: Please give advise-marriage help!! It's difficult to maintain a strong, trusting relationship when one spouse is away in the military, even if there's been no cheating, so it makes a lot of sense that it's taking your wife longer to work through this. It's good that the two of you are able to Skype everyday, but o/c that doesn't even come close to being together. I can only imagine how hard it must be for your wife (& you) dealing w/the ramifications of your cheating while also having to be apart. I think it's going to take a lot more time still. Very good suggestions in these posts. I'd like to add that you should be very specific. When you're giving your wife a compliment, don't just tell her she's beautiful. Tell her you love how she crinkles her nose when she laughs or how soft the skin on the curve of her hip is & how you miss touching it or whatever it is about HER that you find so beautiful, whatever it is that you notice when you look @ HER, what separates her from other women. If you are taking her out or buying flowers, put a lot of thought into personalizing what you're doing for her. Good luck. Thank you very much for your service.